Making the First Move

Today, I started thinking about the pros and cons of making the first move. I'd like to tell people that I am truly a Southern Belle and always let the boy call me and talk to me, but I would be lying. The truth is, I'm proactive...that's a good way to say it...in my dating life. : )

Here is an example: I've had my eye on this particular guy for awhile now. One day I happened upon his myspace profile had a look around and decided that we could get along. He is cute and come to find out, he is a friend of one of my friends. I can't tell you all what he does because here in this small town, everyone would know who I was talking about. Let me just say, I know his personality, and I find it very appealing. We shall call him Red. Red seems to have all the good things I want in a man. He is smart, witty, driven, cute, and fun. We both love music. Sounds like he is a qualifier. So I was on Facebook last night talking to our mutual friend, and I decided to just say that I thought he was cute. She got the hint though and said she would let him know I said so. I'm not really sure exactly what that means, but I'm excited.

Up until I turned 16, I was a pretty shy girl. There are different degrees of shyness. I wouldn't freeze up talking to someone, but I would have a hard time playing it cool if some cute guy came up and started talking to me. Now I am much more of an extremist which causes me not to be so shy. Tell me I'm not going to do something, and I will do it with a smile on my face just to prove you wrong. The days of daring each other came and went like high school so I have to constantly challenge myself. I guess I do this in the dating world. I think that nothing good comes out of sitting by and waiting so I make things happen for myself. Just like with Red. I'm not sure if anything will happen with him, but hey, I put myself out there. Right?

So this weekend, I'm putting on my cutest clothes and going out for my friend Michelle's birthday. Who is bound to be there? You guessed it, Red! Maybe I'll go up and talk to him. I'm not sure, but either way I've got to take a chance.